‘Queen Bees & Wannabees’: Not All Women Welcome at Women’s March on Washington


“Queen Bees & Wannabees” is the 2002 self-help book by Rosalind Wiseman on which the 2004 film “Mean Girls” was based.

Wiseman, who interestingly boasts a degree in political science, wrote the New York Times best-seller to educate parents on the intense peer pressure their adolescent daughters are under to conform with the groupthink in their particular social circle — “Girl World,” Wiseman called it — which is enforced by a hierarchy of girls, the author wrote, “with all the tact, sense of fairness, and social graces of a pack of marauding hyenas.”

That brings me to the Women’s March on Washington (WMW), which takes place today in the nation’s capital. Its “leaders” bear a striking resemblance to the adolescent hierarchy in Wiseman’s Girl World. They are grown-up mean girls, enforcing conformity to the groupthink that prevails in Woman World by bullying or shaming women who dare to dissent.

Two such dissenters, Jennifer Willis and Aimee Murphy — both of whom are so-called “Trump resisters” — recently told their stories to The New York Times and Washington Post respectively.

Willis was very much looking forward to attending today’s march. And the 50-year-old South Carolina wedding minister was going to bring her daughters along with her. Then she read a post on the WMW Facebook page that made her feel unwelcome because she was born white.

The author of the offending post, a 27-year-old blogger from Brooklyn, said that Willis and other white women like her “don’t just get to join the march and not check their white privilege.”

Then there’s Murphy, both pro-life and feminist, who was excited to participate in the today’s march — especially after march organizers approved New Wave Feminists, a pro-life feminist group, as an official partner.

All was inclusive until Planned Parenthood and NARAL Pro-Choice America became march sponsors, insisting that New Wave Feminists be dropped as an official WMW partner. Nevertheless, Murphy vows that she and other pro-life feminists like her will walk at the march whether organizers like it or not.

The unhappy experiences of Willis and Murphy reveal the divisions within today’s feminist community that have nothing to do with Donald Trump’s election — which supposedly, was the impetus for today’s Women’s March on Washington.

The reality is modern feminism has been defined by grown-up mean girls like Black Lives Matter founders Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors and Opel Tometi, and Planned Parenthood CEO Celinda Lake and NARAL Pro Choice President Ilyse Hogue.

Apparently, any woman who does not share the worldviews of these and other members of the feminist hierarchy are unwelcome in Woman World; are marchers-non-grata at today’s celebration of sisterly solidarity.

Yet, in their “Guiding Vision and Definition of Principles,” WMW organizers maintain that their “is women-led movement (is) bringing together people of all genders, ages, races, cultures, political affiliations, disabilities and backgrounds.”

Well, the mean-spirited comments posted on the WMW Facebook page at white women like Jennifer Willis suggest that some races are more welcome than others at today’s march.

And the dis-invitation of pro-life women like Aimee Murphy is prima evidence that WMW organizers really didn’t really want women of all political affiliations and all backgrounds to join them in the nation’s capital.



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